My problem is that I never checked how you felt, it was always about me because I was the one who would speak up, you never spoke up and never told me how you felt, so I never knew what was going down. 

My other problem is, I kept looking for reasons for us to not work out since that's always what happened with us. We would be okay and then something would happen and we would be ruined. I just kept expecting that to happen all over again. 

The other problem is, I began to put walls up and you never took yours down- at least not with me. 

The other problem is, since I didn't receive reassurance and validation, I thought I didn't matter. The problem with this problem is, I'm pretty sure you told me you didn't care.